How to Stop Playing Small with ADHD - Without Burning Out
A guided book and journal for ADHD women who feel overwhelmed, burned out, and ready to stop playing small—without forcing themselves to push harder.
You’re ambitious. You’re capable.
But you’re exhausted.
- You work harder than most people realize — yet still feel behind.
- Ambition keeps pulling you forward, even when your energy can’t keep up.
- Meanwhile, responsibility for everyone else often lands on your shoulders.
- Over time, planners and productivity systems have promised relief — but rarely delivered it.
- Even knowing you’re meant for more, forward movement feels impossible without burning out.
Here’s the truth about ADHD burnout — and why it matters
What you’re experiencing isn’t a motivation problem or a discipline issue.
This exhaustion comes from years of over-functioning — pushing through overwhelm, ignoring limits, and staying in survival mode just to keep up.
Why traditional approaches haven’t worked
Over time, that pattern trains your nervous system to link ambition with pressure, urgency, and fatigue. Eventually, even meaningful goals start to feel heavy, confusing, or impossible to follow through on.
More effort hasn’t helped because effort isn’t the issue.
Another planner, course, or productivity hack won’t solve it either.
What actually needs to change
A different relationship with motivation and ambition is required — one that doesn’t depend on pushing harder, overriding your needs, or waiting until burnout forces you to stop.
That gap is exactly what The Self-Loved Woman Way was created to support.
A different way to Stop Playing Small with ADHD
If pushing harder worked, it would have worked by now.
Most ADHD women don’t struggle because they lack insight, intelligence, or desire.
Instead, they struggle because the strategies they’ve been taught rely on constant effort, self-override, and pressure to perform — the very things that lead to burnout.
This guided book and journal offers a different approach.
Rather than asking you to fix yourself, optimize yourself, or force consistency, it helps you slow down enough to reconnect with yourself, so forward movement becomes possible again — without exhaustion.
This isn’t another productivity system
You don’t need another planner telling you what to do.
You don’t need a rigid routine you can’t sustain.
And you don’t need more information about ADHD that never quite translates into real change.
Instead, you need space — to reflect, recalibrate, and rebuild trust with yourself in a way that actually fits how your brain works.
That’s exactly what this experience is designed to support.
Small, grounded steps that lead to real change
Through guided reflection, journaling prompts, and simple rituals woven throughout the book, you’ll begin to loosen the patterns that keep you stuck in over-functioning and self-doubt.
Over time, those small shifts add up — not because you’re trying harder, but because you’re finally working from a place of clarity, self-respect, and sustainability.
This is how change becomes something you can live with — not another thing you have to maintain.
What’s inside the ADHD Book & Journal
This is not a digital download or another workbook you’ll skim and forget.
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way is a tangible, guided book and journal designed to support reflection, clarity, and sustainable change —
without pressure or overwhelm.
Each element is intentional, practical, and designed to be used at your own pace.
A guided book and journal designed for ADHD women
Inside the spiral-bound journal-book, you’ll find:
Short, focused reflections that help you slow down and reconnect with yourself
Thought-provoking journaling prompts that invite insight without overthinking
Gentle guidance to help you notice patterns, name what matters, and make aligned choices
Space to write, reflect, and return to — without needing to “do it right”
The structure is flexible by design. You can move through it gradually, revisit sections as needed, or pause and return when life gets busy.
A curated, sensory-grounded experience
Your journal-book arrives in a beautifully branded keepsake box, along with thoughtfully chosen sensory items that support the Self-Loved Woman ritual woven throughout the book.
These elements are meant to help you:
Create a sense of calm and presence
Slow down enough to engage with the material meaningfully
Turn reflection into a grounded, supportive practice — not another task
This experience is about how it feels to engage, not how much you get done.
Created to support real change — not perfection
Nothing inside this book asks you to fix yourself, force motivation, or push through exhaustion.
Instead, it supports a different relationship with your ambition — one rooted in clarity, self-respect, and sustainability.
That’s what allows change to last.
This ADHD Book & Journal is for you if…
This guided book and journal is designed for ADHD women seeking change through clarity and self-trust — not pressure, hustle, or self-override.
It may be a good fit for you if:
You’re ambitious and capable, yet feel chronically overwhelmed or burned out
Productivity systems that rely on pushing harder or staying “on track” no longer work for you
Even though you know you’re meant for more, you keep finding yourself playing small or holding back
What you want now is a supportive, reflective approach that fits real life — not another rigid plan
You’re ready to slow down enough to reconnect with yourself and move forward more intentionally
This may not be the right fit if…
This experience may not be a good fit if you’re looking for:
✖️ A quick fix or step-by-step productivity system
✖️ Rigid routines or daily checklists to follow
✖️ A digital-only workbook or course
This book and journal are meant to be used gently and flexibly, in a way that supports insight and sustainable change over time.
IMAGINE WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE WHEN YOU STOP PLAYING SMALL
Not because you’ve fixed yourself.
Not because you’ve finally found the “right” system.
Change becomes possible when you stop fighting yourself just to get through the day.
Before The Self-Loved Woman Way
After The Self-Loved Woman Way
🌪️ Days feel full, yet somehow unfulfilling
🌪️ Constant pressure to keep up, stay on track, and not fall behind follows you everywhere
🌪️ Even the things you care about feel heavy or draining
🌪️ Self-doubt delays decisions — even when clarity exists
🌪️ Rest rarely restores because your mind never slows down
🌪️ “Getting it together” becomes a requirement before moving forward
✯ Energy gets used more intentionally, instead of being spread thin everywhere
✯ Follow-through feels more natural because you’re no longer pushing against exhaustion
✯ Trust in yourself grows — in your choices, your pace, and your limits
✯ Forward movement feels aligned and sustainable, not forced
✯ You show up for your work, your calling, and your life fully — as your whole self.
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Frequently Asked Questions
This is a physical book and journal that ships to you. It arrives as a curated, boxed experience — not a digital file or online course.
It’s both.
This is a guided book and journal, which means you’ll find written reflections, prompts, a guided meditation to do the work, and supportive guidance throughout — along with space to write and reflect in your own way.
You don’t need to figure out how to use it on your own.
No.
This book and journal are intentionally designed to be flexible. You can move through it at your own pace, revisit sections when needed, or set it aside and return later.
There’s no daily requirement and no “falling behind.”
No.
This experience is for ADHD women, whether your overwhelm shows up at work, at home, or in the in-between spaces of life. While ambition is a common theme, you do not need to own a business, be an entrepreneur, or have a career to benefit.
Many women find that clarity, follow-through, and focus improve — but productivity is not the primary goal.
The focus is on changing your relationship with yourself so forward movement feels more sustainable and less draining. Productivity often follows naturally from that shift.
That’s very common — and it doesn’t mean this won’t help.
This experience isn’t about fixing you or forcing change. It’s designed to support insight, self-trust, and sustainable shifts over time, especially if traditional productivity tools haven’t stuck.
This journal-book experience was created by Jen Barnes, MSW, CPC, TCTSY-F , who brings over 25 years in the mental health field, along with lived experience as an ADHD woman.
The approach is grounded, compassionate, and designed to meet ADHD women where they actually are.
Jen has including 20 years of clinical practice, coaching, and deep study in ADHD, trauma, nervous system regulation, and Internal Family Systems (IFS). She is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW) and an ADHD Success Coach, with specialized expertise helping ambitious ADHD women like you break free from over-functioning, emotional exhaustion, and the invisible patterns that keep us playing small.
This isn’t just theory — it’s the exact work Jen has done with clients and with herself for decades, adapted into a self-guided experience you can finally do on your own terms.
Since healing and inner work happens in layers, you may find benefit in returning to the journal prompts over time, especially as new challenges surface.
Additionally, there is a special card in the box to help you do this work beyond the journal book including a link to a guided meditation led by Jen.
ADHD in women tends to look and feel differently than for men. Jen’s expertise and experience is in working with women and particularly women with ADHD. Men are welcome to purchase and use this journal-book experience, but may be better served by options that focus on their unique challenges with ADHD and emotional wellness.
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Note that the journal book experience is in English.
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It’s Time to Stop Playing Small — Without Burning Out
You don’t need to push harder, fix yourself, or wait until you’re completely exhausted to begin.
This guided book and journal is an invitation to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and move forward in a way that feels sustainable — not forced.
You can take this step in your own time, at your own pace, and in a way that fits your real life.
Let this be your first self-loving step toward showing up fully in your work, your leadership, and your life.
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